AZDana

I am so proud of my daughter

09 Sep 2007 2 Comments

by AzDana in Family

You know, when you’re raising your kids, you don’t know for sure how they’re going to turn out, until they’ve turned out. Well, my daughter, MP, is over 18, and I couldn’t be prouder of the person she’s become, especially growing up in a single parent home. I respect her integrity and her fairness, and her ability to keep a cool head in a stressful situation. She’s a beautiful, bright and intelligent young woman.

Now that she is an adult, she prefers not to be known as “Dana’s daughter” online, because it makes her sound like a kid, and she’s not. I can’t blame her for feeling this way, and I respect her wishes to forge her own identity, instead of being a “mini-me”.

Awhile back ago, my daughter offered to host some people’s blogs on a domain that she set up for that purpose. While I know some of the people that she hosts, those people don’t know that she is my daughter.

Recently, I was reading the blog of someone (we’ll call her Agnes) whose blog was on my daughter’s domain. Normally, my daughter runs her sites her way, and I run mine my way. However, after reading something that “Agnes’” posted on her blog, I am the one that insisted that my daughter take it down. I’ll put it this way: If someone had said to my face what Agnes posted, then I would report that person to the authorities. When it comes to other people’s blogs, I am pretty lenient and carefree about what I read. But after reading Agnes’ post, I am very concerned about the way she treats her child.

I actually wanted my daughter to remove everything that Agnes had ever posted, and ban her on a permanent basis. My daughter, trying to be fair and less hot-headed than myself, gave Agnes a two week suspension.

Well, Agnes doesn’t seem to like MP’s decision and has been posting about it publicly on a message board that I frequent. Agnes has been trying to lead a witch hunt and stir up bad feelings towards my daughter.

I really didn’t want to get in the middle of such childish and juvenile behavior, and I am shocked by those that have been part of the mob mentality. I just have a few words to them, and then I am done with those that chose to hurl epithets and hateful words without knowing the entire situation:

• If you don’t have proof of the emails exchanged between Agnes and my daughter, then you’re only seeing one side of the picture.
• I am the one that caused Agnes’ post to come down and if I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t change my opinion. Her post was so over the top that the situation couldn’t wait till Agnes got back from her grandmother’s funeral.
• If you are going to post mean hateful things in a public forum about someone, I’d prefer you know who you should be “blacklisting”. (I think that’s the word I saw last night, I don’t plan on going back to make sure.)

Again, let me say that I am proud of how my daughter handled this situation. She and I both discussed the ramifications of taking any action before it was taken. She knew that there may be some repercussions that came about because of this, but sometimes, what’s right isn’t popular, and being popular isn’t right.MP doesn’t really care what others say about her when she knows she’s done no wrong.

What REALLY REALLY bothers me… the one that ends up the big loser in all this… is Agnes’ child. I had hoped that the suspension would give her a wake up call about how she treats her daughter. I guess that’s not going to happen. My daughter is big enough to handle anything that Agnes can dish out. Sadly, I can’t say the same thing about Agnes’ little girl.

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